See that girl across the room? Ba-da-boom! That’s the one!

Buy her a drink. She smiles. You chat. She smiles. It’s all good. So you ask her out. And she . . . declines.

What happened? What did you do wrong?

Not a thing. She simply wasn’t attracted to you.

You must have been on the flip side once or twice, yourself. So you know what it’s like when you’re simply not attracted to somebody who wants to get with you. You also know it when attraction grabs you. You know where it’s pulling you. And you know that without it, you don’t get lucky.

Can you make attraction happen?

This is why all those tough guys, outlaws, rogues, rapscallions, phillanderers, and downright bad boys seem to get all the girls. Sure they do—for a night. A few weeks, maybe. Beyond that, all but the most intimidated, besotted women will realize they’ve hooked up with a stereotype, a guy with all the depth of a wanted poster. A few masochists will stick around. The rest need an actual relationship to keep them interested.

Trouble with the rude-and-cocky act is that it’s a parody of the real deal.

Generally, women are indeed strongly attracted to self-confident men. It’s a jungle out there, and chances are good that a confident man will be able to take care of a woman—or at least hold his own against the other alpha males. This is also an indication of his reproductive fitness: he’ll probably make a good mate and strong babies.

In fact, women are attracted

If world-conquering power isn’t on your vitae, though, don’t worry. Be funny. That old bromide about a sense of humor may be truer than you realize. We’re talking genuine humor here, not flip comments or rude jokes. According to the dictionary, humor is “ingenuity or verbal skill or incongruity [that] has the power to evoke laughter.” That is, wit. Humor takes intelligence, guys, and intelligence is very attractive. An intelligent man can outwit predators, as well as the other alpha males, and he’ll probably fare very well in the jungle, thank you. Also, he’ll probably make smart babies.

Now, in most situations, people are attracted (or not) in the blink of an eye, without stopping to analyze the reasons. (Did you run through your pre-flight checklist when you saw that busty blonde across the room?) So if you didn’t arrive in a stretch limo, don’t resemble the latest Hollywood heartthrob, and don’t have any world leaders on speed dial, don’t take it personally.

You can still grease the skids.

Assuming you look fairly normal, wash regularly, got over “Miami Vice” and polyester leisure suits (nose rings are iffy), and haven’t set your sights on a lady who’s a foot taller than you are, you’re good to go. Ask her to dance—that stimulates all the good love-buzz brain chemicals. (Don’t know how? Learn! Get it right. She probably won’t know why, but it works.)

Still no score? Maybe she already had her eye on that other guy, behind you. Nothing personal—take her cue. See that woman over there? Did you catch her eye? Did she look away and then back again? Better yet, did she smile?

What are you waiting for? You’re already halfway there!

Keep in mind, above all else, that most women would rather meet an honest guy than a phony. A phony might be fun for a flirt or a quick fuck, but you can’t trust ‘em. Even if you lack confidence, be disarmingly honest and say so. You see how that works? If you’ve got the confidence to admit your doubts, you’ve already cancelled them out. by power, too, in almost any form: celebrity, influence, professional achievement, financial clout. Again, this is all about survival in the jungle and keeping those babies safe and healthy. Unfortunately, since humans are so easily scammed, this power thing can go horribly wrong, as it does in abusive relationships. But we’ll assume you’re not interested in anything criminal. Not really. Despite what so many self-styled players and seduction experts tell you in their blogs and columns and ebooks, acting flip or rude is not the way to instant babe-dom. It’s a mind game designed to throw the other person off balance.
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Is anything worse than the end of a long-term relationship? You feel as though somebody died. Maybe your partner; certainly, the relationship itself. You probably feel kind of dead inside, yourself.

You’ve been through all the stages: denial and loneliness, anger, fighting to keep things as they were, depression when you can’t. Maybe some guilt. Finally, you give it all up: you accept the fact that you’re not half of a couple anymore. You’re a whole single. On your own again.

That’s when it hits you. Single means dating. Again.

Are you thrilled? All revved up and ready to go? Or do you feel like a deer caught in headlights?

Buck up! Even if your long-ago dating experience was about as much fun as chewing glass, it doesn’t mean history has to repeat on you. Or maybe you loved dating and had a grand old time, but that was sooo long ago, and you liked being a couple, and who’s got the energy anymore anyway? Please. Unless you plan on moving to a desert island or a cave in the Himalayas, you’re going to be surrounded by people every day. You’ll talk with people, work with people—maybe even enjoy being around one or two of them. Maybe one or two will enjoy being around you. You might grab lunch with a coworker, a cup of coffee after the gym, pizza and a beer after class . . . Oops! You’re dating again.
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Rule 1: Don’t rush it.

Don’t think you want another “serious” relationship for a while? Just wanna have fun? Or—let’s face it—are you just plain, friggin’ HORNY?

Rule 2: Learn the ropes—again.

You may think of the “sexual revolution” as an historical event, when general availability of birth-control pills kicked off an orgy of experimentation and “free love” during the 1960s and 1970s. But a lot more has happened in just the last couple of decades.

For example, sex toys are hot. Lots of people enjoy them now, not only solo, but on play dates with a partner. If you’ve never seen one before, let alone tried one out, you may want to get used to the idea. You may also find that a new partner enjoys anal sex. Don’t be surprised—it’s always been around, though no one used to talk about it much. Since HIV and AIDS hit the scene, though, people started talking . . . people got interested. So here’s where you really have to pay attention:

Rule 3: Play it safe.

The booby trap is in thinking that you—or your new partner—always know when you’re sick. You don’t. STDs sometimes cause no symptoms at all. Even if you were in a monogamous heterosexual relationship for decades, the only sexual behavior you can be absolutely certain of is your own. And the only way to be absolutely certain of your own health, as well as the health of your new partner, is to be tested.

Luckily, that’s another thing

See? Simple as 1–2–3. Sure, it can be painful at first. But dating again (after all these years!) doesn’t have to be hard or scary. Think of all the pleasures that await, once you get get started. Just don’t be like that poor deer, paralyzed by the bright lights. Take your time, look both ways, and you’ll be off and running!

that’s changed in recent years. Now it’s easier than ever to get tested. Drug stores sell home test kits that let you stick your finger for a tiny sample of blood to send to a lab. It’s all very anonymous; you call a toll-free number to hear your results. Of course, you can always visit a nearby clinic or ask your regular doctor or gynecologist for help. Don’t be shy! Your doctor should approve of your being tested. If not, find a new doctor. The last thing you need right now is disapproval, and you certainly don’t deserve it! You’ve probably thought, at least a little, about the possibility of getting HIV from having unprotected sex. Maybe you’ve also considered genital herpes, chlamydia, gonorrhea, amd syphilis.

If you’re smart, you’ve learned to love latex—condoms are your best protection against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). That’s for oral sex, too. Any exchange of body fluids can give you something skanky. Even if you’ve been around the block way more than once, if you’ve been out of the game for a few years, you should know that the rules have changed. Game play involves a lot more than who calls whom, who pays, and whether you should hold the door open or pull out the chair. (That comes back to Rule 1: however you play it, respect yourself, respect your date, and you’ll do fine. When in doubt, ask!)

Let’s repeat that: Don’t rush it. You’re not damaged goods, and you don’t have to prove that to anybody. In fact, anyone who’d think so is nobody you want to be around. Be glad you have some extra time right now to get to know yourself again—indulge your likes, explore your interests, discover what you really want out of life . . . for yourself. This will make it a whole lot easier for the right person to recognize you as a potential soul mate.
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You’re not a predator, right? You’re not here to hoodwink anybody. Sure, everybody looks forward to a little action . . . maybe a lot of action. But let’s assume you want to find someone special to get busy with, someone who’s just right for you.

For the moment, forget about photos. Of course appearance matters—you want to click on all levels. But face it: the world is swarming with beautiful people. And just what makes ‘em beautiful? They come very, very close to matching some cultural ideal. The closer people come to that ideal, the more they look alike—cookie-cutter people. Generic humans. What’s so special about that?

But you’re unique. Your experiences, your ideas, your dreams, are altogether your own. You may be beautiful, too, but that’s not what makes you special. The profile you post online is like a snapshot of your heart and mind. It’s at least as important as any photo.

So where do you start?

Most people have a hard time describing themselves honestly and feeling comfortable with it. Most often, they trip over their own modesty and fall flat, or else they blow so much hot air, it steams up the mirror. Either way, you can’t see what they’re really like.

Can you see yourself clearly? Height, weight, coloring, age, are simply facts. If these things matter to you, then that is the fact that counts most, not the details. The way you see (and describe) yourself has a tremendous effect on the impression you make. Are you reed-slim and slender, voluptuous, sturdy, strong, in vibrant health, built for comfort? Tall as a supermodel? Streamlined for speed?

Whatever you do, though, be honest. You can’t hide the facts forever. Keep in mind, the Internet seines the whole world; that’s a lot of ocean and billions of fish—all shapes, sizes, and colors. You’ve got plenty of chances to catch the attention of those who’ll like you just as you are.

In fact, you can start there. What’s your favorite fish? What kind of person do you imagine sharing in your future? Somebody with a great sense of humor? (Stand-up comic or circus clown?) Devoted to family, ready to raise kids? Deeply religious? Zealously political? Professionally committed? Intellectually curious? Physically active?

Are you describing yourself? Great! If these are things you care deeply about, you’ll want your match to care about them, too. Take the time to think about the things that matter most to you. Don’t worry about sounding like an oddball, either. You’ll find more than enough like-minded oddballs to start your own league.

Now get more specific. Do you have a hobby? (Why do you collect boxfuls of rocks?) Do you love to read? (Nineteenth-century whodunits? Medieval poetry?) Like animals? (Just how many rabbits do you keep in the house? Do they get along with the cockatoos?) Do you go fishing every chance you get but refuse to eat fish? It would be perfect if you met someone who already shares your passion for heirloom vegetable seeds or prehistoric spiral motifs, but you’ve really got to be upfront about that spare room full of nothing but shoes, or the vivarium of snakes in the cellar. You don’t have to go into detail. Just say you’re proud of your mounted lepidoptera or 6,000 reggae records (vinyl, original covers). That should be enough.

It’s harder to describe your own temperament. Are you laid back, happy-go-lucky, slightly goofy? Serious, quiet, responsible? Do you smile all the time? Can’t resist a challenge? Keen on practical jokes?

This is where your friends and family can help. Ask them—several of them, if you can take the scrutiny—to tell you what they like about you. Obviously, you’ll only ask people who do like you. But even they will have a more objective view of you than you have of yourself. So what if they’re fully aware of your annoying habit of chewing each bite of food exactly 42 times? They like you anyway. Isn’t that what you’re looking for in a new honey?

Okay, you’ve figured out your strengths and thrown in your worst quirk to balance the picture (and to weed out anybody that would end up hating you for it). You’ve described your interests and passions. You’ve modestly listed the things your friends say they like about you. (Hey, it’s okay! They promised to be candid, right?) You’ve been honest, truthful, and honest.

Only one thing’s left, then. Who do you want to meet? What attributes are rock-bottom deal breakers for you? Beyond the usual stuff—nonsmoker or smoker; drinks, drugs, diet; hetero, gay, bi; gotta be bigger/smaller than you; gotta be a certain shade of puce, pink, or parti—some things can’t be changed and can’t be lived with.

One of the worst mistakes you can make is to assume that you can change anyone but yourself. If you’ve ever tried to break a habit or go on a diet, you know how hard that can be, even when you want it badly. When it comes to someone else, you may be trying to squelch something that’s been a part of their personality since diaper days. Think they might fight it?

If you believe people should have as many children as possible, you need a woman who wants babies. If you think that women are every bit as intelligent and capable as men are, you want to meet a man who agrees. If it drives you up a wall when somebody mocks another’s speech or cracks demeaning jokes, then tolerance should be high on your list of qualifications.

Skip that bit about liking piña coladas and getting caught in the rain. It reveals little more than an occasional lapse of judgment. Stick with the stuff that makes you crazy and the things you’re crazy about. Be honest. Check your spelling. (You do mean business, don’t you?)

Now post it! Then go find some good photos to add.

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Lovers’ quarrel. Marital spat. The Battle of the Sexes. The War Between Men and Women. Why is it that intelligent adults of the same species, even those that love each other, have so much trouble communicating?

The truth is, disagreements with your Significant Other don’t have to escalate into all-out, knock-down, drag-out prizefights. Not if you learn the “sweet science” of fighting fair.

First of all, know your sparring partner.

It’s not cultural perversity. It’s hard-wired. Well before we’re born, our brains develop structural and functional differences that affect the way we behave. For instance, women use more than one area in the brain to perform cognitive tasks, like reading a story. Men’s brains are larger, but women have more cells in some areas, particularly those that control speech and the generation of language. So women in general not only talk more easily than men do, but have larger vocabularies and can remember the spoken word in much more detail.

Women also have a lot of hard-wiring between the brain and the adrenal glands, which produce the stress hormone cortisol. Men get rid of cortisol very quickly. But in women, it hangs around for a day or so and makes them feel anxious and depressed.

Overall, then, women tend to remember unhappy things in great detail, for a very long time, and talk about them at great length. Unfortunately, their male partner probably won’t even remember what they’re talking about.

Not a promising situation when you need to work out a problem. Is there any hope for resolution? Sure. Fight it out!

General guide to inter-gender communication

The goal here is to say what you mean so the other guy gets it, and to hear what the other guy says, instead of what you think he means. This can be tricky when one of the guys is a girl (or vice versa). These guidelines should help.

Don’t just watch what you say—watch the way you say it.

Listen.

The corollary, of course, is Don’t interrupt. You may feel as though you understand, you’ve got it, you know how to fix it, you want explain, to defend, to apologize . . . Don’t. Especially, don’t talk over the poor person who’s trying to tell you something, for goodness’ sake. Try to control yourself and just listen.

Repeat

Rules for a fair fight

• First of all, be clear that your object is to fix a problem, not to defeat an enemy. Either you both win, or you both lose.
• If your partner has a problem, deal with it. Don’t stonewall, assume it will blow over, write it off as trivial, or figure it doesn’t concern you.
• If you have a problem, ask if your partner is up to talking about it now, or if another time—that same day—would be better. Pick a time that works for both of you.
• Don’t generalize. Say specifically what you’re upset about.
• Be brief! Don’t repeat the problem three different ways, cite your five-year log of alleged transgressions, or catalogue your partner’s culpable flaws.
• Stick to the subject and keep it simple. Don’t bury it under a load of excess baggage and tacky souvenirs.
• Don’t attack. Instead, explain how you feel. After all, that’s what you want to fix. If you put the other guy on the defensive, that’s all he’ll be able to think about. Say something like “I feel . . .” “I need . . .” “I am . . .” Avoid like the plague “You make me . . .” “You always . . .” “You never . . .” You might as well just haul off and hit ‘em upside the head.
• No hitting below the belt. If your partner has a sore spot, you are honor bound to protect it, not poke it.
• No witnesses, seconds, or coaches allowed.
• Stay in the present. Anything over 24 hours old is generally useless.
• Believe what your partner says. Don’t flay, dissect, or psychoanalyze it.
• When you present a problem, you should offer a solution. Women, take note: men are solution-oriented. If he takes the trouble to listen to a problem, he’ll feel obliged to fix it. If you don’t have an idea about how you want to do that, he probably will. Think it through ahead of time.
• Compromise can be comforting.
• Civility never hurts. Try thanking your partner for listening, for being honest with you, for being nonjudgmental.

Seem like a lot of rules?

It’s mostly just common sense. Take your time, listen, don’t blame your partner, and don’t blame yourself. Even if you’re feeling really pissed at the moment, think: What you actually want is to make each other feel better, right? You’ve got a problem to fix. The sooner you fix it, the sooner you get to kiss and make up. what you think you heard, and ask if you got it right. Does that seem obvious, guys? Guys? You listening? Let your partner know that you’re paying attention—nod your head; throw in an occasional uh-huh or no way! Showing periodic flickers of life helps to maintain consciousness, and many women find it extremely attractive. Your words may say one thing, but your body language (crossed arms, tapping foot, hands on hips, jutting chin) and facial expressions (scowl, smile, eye contact or lack thereof) may say something else entirely. Keep in mind that the tone of your voice can even reverse the meaning of your words.The latest scientific research has found that male and female brains are different, in structure, operation, and response to stimulation. Men and women even process, recall, and respond to memories differently.

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Soul-mating in cyberspace

This is the moment. You’ve tweaked your profile till it sings, uploaded your most flattering photos, and scrutinized a squillion other posted hopefuls in your search for The One—or at least for some fun. You’ve had some responses and sent some yourself, and maybe that little frisson of thrilling possibility you felt with the first few hasn’t tickled your fancy lately. Maybe you’ve wondered whether this online dating thing can work for you at all.

Then it happens. Somebody out there connects with your computer, and you feel that hopeful prickle: this is more like it! Then you wonder: now what? Is it possible to build a real-life relationship in cyberspace?

Yes, of course. And no. At least, not entirely.

The truth is,

Same ways you’ve always been able to make good friends, find dates, and develop relationships. Same ways to mess it up. And some fantastic tools to help you get it right and make it better than ever.

Now, this is not the same thing as being separated from someone you know well: a boyfriend or girlfriend, a long-time lover, a husband or wife. You two have already shared experiences, situations, pleasures, and pains—you have a history to remember and build on. This new person is uncharted territory.

The first, HUMONGOUS difference

The second difference (and this one’s ginormous) is one that’s often cited as a negative aspect of online dating: reliance on photos for first impressions. This is supposed to amplify to absurdity the importance of (ta-da!) Looks. Let me ask you: When was the last time you scanned a club or a singles bar, elbowed your buddy in the ribs, and said “Wow! Look at that one! So . . . so average! I gotta get some of that!”

Not exactly natural, that. Nature programed us to seek mates that look like they’ll produce physically superior offspring. Luckily, nature also gave most of us brains enough to realize that Looks can be deceiving—in real life and, especially, in cyberlife.

In fact, misrepresentation seems particularly easy on the Internet, and predators abound. Right? Sure; but don’t forget—behind every cybercreep, there’s a living, breathing body somewhere. Deceit online is tied directly to deceit offline. And online, at least, you have several layers of protection available. You’re still behind that window. You can draw the drapes whenever you want. But if you try, you can also get to know people well, and even intimately.

Use ALL the tools.

Of course, you simply can’t be a sociable single, let alone a serious mate-seeker, without the ubiquitous telephone. But your computer is even better. If you have cable access, you may be able to get a digital phone line that allows unlimited long distance calling for a very low monthly fee. Better yet, voice-over-Internet protocol (VoIP) lets you to talk with people via your Internet connection—even dial-up—virtually anywhere in the world. As long as you both have computers and install the same VoIP software, you can be on opposite sides of the planet and talk all night, for free.

If you and your date both have webcams, you can add live, real-time visuals to instant-message chats or conversations. Hey, it’s almost like being there! Yahoo Messenger, AOL Instant Messenger (AIM), MSN Messenger, and Skype all offer video capability. (You probably need to have Windows XP or Apple iChat AV version 2.1 or later for this to work.)

Online dating lets you

Now you must flesh out your relationship. In the end, you’ll never really know someone until you’ve seen them stub a toe, spill a drink, get cut off in traffic, or deal with a crying child or naughty puppy. You’ll want to know how this potential partner treats you when you have a splitting headache or you burn the toast. Not to mention truly essential stuff—the kind of thing that can drive you crazy—like toothpaste-cap handling and blanket hogging . . .

But you have an advantage. You’ve already met, talked, traded jokes, learned whether you both hate beets or love tango. Maybe you’ve argued politics or confessed a secret desire to join Cirque du Soleil. And you’ve discovered that you really like each other, enough to make plans.

You’re ready to climb through that window.

Relax, take your time, and get to know your date without the anxiety, self-consciousness, and noise of the singles-bar-and-club scene. Once you’ve discovered that you truly like this other soul, that communicating with each other makes you both feel good, you’ll want to get together in real space. (Of course, you’ll observe all the proper precautions: meet in a public place, make certain that friends and family know your itinerary, and so on.)

Letter writing may seem old-fashioned, but what do you think e-mail is? Snail mail is slower, but it’s tactile, sensual, physical. It can be held, reread, smelled, slept with . . . kept in a special place. It can carry photos, pressed flowers, locks of hair. E-mail is more spontaneous, easier to do, and it may have spell check. It can carry .gifs and jpgs and .wavs, oh my! And it doesn’t need a stamp. is—unless you happen to live in the same city or are rich (or crazy) enough to hop a jet for a first date—there’s no pressure to have sex before you’re ready. No pressure to perform. No anxiety about measuring up. No need to say no, or yes, or to regret it either way.

This computer you’re staring at is a window. Through it, you can see people on the other side of the world as though they were no farther away than your own backyard. You can talk all you want, swap stories and recipes, share photos and favorite music, lend books and borrow tools. You can collaborate with coworkers thousands of miles away, you can volunteer for charitable projects with other caring souls, and you can explore your hobbies and interests with people who share your passions.
(Roxie Sockham)

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“Eating a woman’s pussy is about the most wonderful thing you can do for her. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and of course it makes her cum like crazy. Many women prefer it to intercourse, and for most, it’s the easiest way to cum with a man. You may have the littlest cock on the planet, but if you give great head, you’ll be appreciated as a fabulous lover. Yes, it’s that important. Besides, lots of women expect it these days so you might as well get to know what you’re doing. Studies show that 90 percent of married couples under 25 give head and for couples over 50, at least 55 percent of the men are eating pussy, with 95 percent of the men and 82 percent of the women enjoying it.

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You can give head to your woman in just about any position she can get herself into, floating on her back in a swimming pool with her legs around your neck, standing on a picnic table, however, some positions are obviously better than others. Giving good head to your woman on a lazy summer afternoon can take an hour or more if you play it right. That means that you both have to be in comfortable positions to enjoy it, or even endure it. That usually means a lying, sitting or reclining position. She has to be able to spread her legs comfortably and hold them in that position. She should not have to have the weight of your body on her, or hers on you. She also needs to be able to put her hands on your head and pull it against her. You need to be able to make eye contact with her while you are eating her. You have to be able to press your mouth to and your tongue in all of her pussy, including holding it deep in her cunt without getting a crick in your neck. You also have to be able to easily place your hands on her pussy and your fingers in her cunt.

  

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The obvious place to start is a bed. She can recline comfortably against some pillows and watch you work. You can lie on your stomach between her legs, however, you’ll have to tilt your head too far back to get your tongue in her cunt comfortably. Putting a couple of pillows under her hips to tilt her pelvis up will help with that problem. This is probably one of the better positions. Another good one, maybe the best, is for her to slide her hips to the edge of the bed and rest her feet on two overstuffed chairs that are spread apart enough for you to rest between them. They can be turned so that she can rest her knees against the arms or backs. A couple of pillows under her head and she can reach your head and watch to her harts content. You can rest on a soft cushion on the floor, your head resting on her thigh, sucking on her clit for hours and have easy access to all of your afternoon’s pleasures.

  

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And then there’s 69. . . . 69 is one of my favorite positions. On the plus side, you both get to enjoy the sublime sensations of getting head simultaneously. The upside down positioning of a woman’s pussy and your mouth is an easy fit and there’s more room for your hands. On the negative side, it’s a less than ideal position for a woman to suck cock and you may not feel comfortable with your nose in her anus when you French kiss her cunt. I also love for a man to reach down, thrust his tongue deep in my cunt and then slowly lap it back up to my clit which doesn’t work well upside down. Plus, if you need to read this book, you may be better off concentrating your energies on pleasing her without too much distraction at first. But even for experienced 69′ers, it’s easy to short-change your partner. “It feels soooo good, I’m just gonna stop for a second and concentrate on what you’re . . . aaaarrrgghhh.” Get the picture? Some show of willpower is in order.

  

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She can also straddle your face which can be a lot of fun, but be prepared to get very wet. There are endless varieties of positions where you can press your face up to her pussy, some of which strike me as more acrobatic than erotic, but feel free to experiment.

Most women are shy about their bodies. Even if you’ve got the world’s most gorgeous woman in bed with you, she’s going to worry about how you like her body. Tell her it’s beautiful, tell her which parts you like best, tell her anything, but get her to trust you enough to let you down between her legs. Now stop and look at what you see.
Beautiful, isn’t it?

  

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There is nothing that makes a woman more unique than her pussy. I know. I’ve seen plenty of them. They come in all different sizes, colors and shapes; some are tucked inside like a little girl’s cunnie and some have thick luscious lips that come out to greet you. Some are nested in brushes of fur and others are covered with transparent fuzz. Appreciate your woman’s unique qualities and tell her what makes her special. Women are a good deal more verbal than men, especially during love-making. They also respond more to verbal love, which means, the more you talk to her, the easier it will be to get her off. So all the time you’re petting and stroking her beautiful pussy, talk to her about it. Now look at it again. Gently pull the lips apart and look at her inner lips, even lick them if you want to. Now spread the tops of her pussy up until you can find her clit. Women have clits in all different sizes, just like you guys have different sized cocks. It doesn’t mean a thing as far as her capacity for orgasm. All it means is more of her is hidden underneath her foreskin.

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Whenever you touch a woman’s pussy, make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or moisten it with juices from inside her. Be sure, by all means, to wet it before you touch her clit because it doesn’t have any juices of it’s own and it’s extremely sensitive. Your finger will stick to it if it’s dry and that hurts.
But you don’t want to touch her clit anyway. You have to work up to that. Before she becomes aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled. Approach her pussy slowly.
Women, even more so than men, love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, make designs on it with the tip of your tongue. Come dangerously close to her pussy, then float away. Make her anticipate it. Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy. Nuzzle your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit without pressing down on it to further excite her. After you’ve done this to the point where your lady is bucking up from her seat and she’s straining to get more of you closer to her, then put your lips right on top of her slit. Kiss her, gently, then harder. Now use your tongue to separate her pussy lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of pussy flesh. Gently spread her legs more with your hands. Everything you do with a woman you’re about to eat must be done gently. Tongue-fuck her. This feels define. It also teases the hell out of her because by now she wants some attention given to her clit.
Check it out.
See if her clit has gotten hard enough to peek out of it’s covering. If so, lick it. If you can’t see it, it might still be waiting for you underneath. So bring your tongue up tot he top of her slit and feel for her clit. You may barely experience it’s presence. But even if you can’t feel the tiny pearl, you can make it rise by licking the skin that covers it.
Lick hard now and press into her skin. Gently pull the pussy lips away and flick your tongue against the clit, hood covered or not. Do this quickly. This should cause her legs to shudder. When you sense she’s getting up there toward orgasm, make your lips into an O and take the clit into your mouth. Start to suck gently and watch your lady’s face for her reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck harder. If she digs it, suck even harder.

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Go with her. If she lifts her pelvis into the air with the tension of her rising orgasm, move with her, don’t fight her. Hang on, and keep your hot mouth on her clit. Don’t let go. That’s what she’ll be saying too: ‘Don’t stop. Don’t ever stop!’
There’s a reason for that, most men stop too soon.
Just like with cock sucking, this is something worth learning about and worth learning to do well. I know a man who’s a lousy fuck, simply lousy, but he can eat pussy like nobody I know and he never has trouble getting a date. Girls are falling all over him. But back to your pussy eating session…

There’s another thing you can do to intensify your woman’s pleasure. You can finger-fuck her while she’s enjoying your clit-licking talents. Before, during or after. She’ll really like it. In addition to the erogenous zones surrounding her clit, a woman has another extremely sensitive area at the roof of her vagina. This is what you rub up against when you’re fucking her.
Well, since your cock is pretty far away from your mouth, your fingers will have to do the fucking. Take two fingers. One is too skinny and three is too wide and therefore can’t get deep enough. Make sure they’re wet so you don’t irritate her skin. Slide them inside, slowly at first, then a little faster. Fuck her with them rhythmically. Speed up only when she does. Listen to her breathing. She’ll let you know what to do.
If you’re sucking her clit and finger-fucking her at the same time, you’re giving her far more stimulation than you would be giving her with your cock alone. So you can count on it that she’s getting high on this. If there’s any doubt, check her out for symptoms. Each woman is unique. You may have one who’s nipples get hard when she’s excited or only when she’s having an orgasm. Your girl might flush red or begin to tremble. Get to know her symptoms and you’ll be a more sensitive lover. When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven’s sakes, don’t let go of that clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her cunt. If your fingers are inside, move them a little too, gently though, things are extremely sensitive just now.
If you play your cards right, you’ll get some multiple orgasms this way. A woman stays excited for a full hour after she’s had an orgasm.

Do you realize the full impact of that information? The potential? One woman was clocked at 56 orgasms at one sitting.
Do you know what effect you would have on a woman you gave 56 orgasms to? She’d be yours as long as you wanted her.

The last advice I have for you is this: After you’ve made her come, made her your slave by giving her the best head she’s ever had, don’t leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep making love to her quietly until she’s come all the way down.
A man can get off and go to sleep in the same breath and feel no remorse, no sense of loss. But a woman by nature requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first few moments after sex. Oral sex can be the most exciting sexual experiences you can have. But it’s what you make it. Take your time, practice often, pay attention to your lover’s signals, and most of all, enjoy yourself.”

“Being a woman, I thought I knew everything there was to know about female sexuality. I mean, hey, I am woman. But I had always heard of this infamous female ejaculation, that was supposedly different than just having an orgasm. I heard stories from my male friends about women they had been with that had ejaculated. And when I would ask them to describe it, I would get similar responses: “It squirts out. It’s very wet. It’s liquid. It’s clear in color. It almost looks cloudy. It’s very warm.” I still wasn’t convinced, I mean it sounded like my friends got peed on. So I was on a quest. What is this liquid and if it is female ejaculate, where does it come from and can I do it too? So I did some research and this is what I found.

Female ejaculation is an orgasm that not every woman is aware of and that, as a result, may bring about some very intense emotions. Those that can do it don’t know what to do with it or feel ashamed of it. Some of the women that I spoke to that could do it didn’t want to because once they did, the men became upset and felt that they were urinated on. And as I learned, this is just not true. In fact, if you do get involved with a woman that can, she is a special woman.

It is a very personal thing though. The way they do it and the amount of fluid they produce can be different. The amount can range from just a few drops to spewing like a man to, more severe, a shower of it.

So where does it come from?
There are several theories, but the one thing that seems to remain consistent is that female ejaculation is worked up in the spongy area around the female urethra, better known as the G-spot. It’s located at the upper part of the vagina, just behind the entrance at the back of the pubic bone. It does actually feel like a little sponge. When stimulated over a long period of time, this sponge fills up with fluid. Some women also told me that it kind of feels like they’re urinating, although they know it’s not coming from the same place. It does originate from the same general area, which is why they feel that way. But this is where the confusion comes in.

Women’s urethra, like men’s, supposedly closes up during sexual activity. There have been many studies. All are basically left with the a question mark and the reader draws their own conclusion. So instead of boring you with every little detail, I’ll give you the general wrap up of all the experiments. So the similar chemicals that have been found in all experiments are a high level of glucose and an enzyme, prostatic acid phosphatase, which is characteristic of the prostatic component of semen (whatever that means) and two substances commonly found in urine, urea and creatinine, which were found at lower levels than in the subject’s urine. (So, okay, there is some urine substance in female ejaculate, from what they’re saying.)

Some have also come to the simple solution that in some women it is very similar to urine and in others it is similar to the fluid produced by the prostate in men. And still more think it may come from a gland located at the opening of the urethra in the vulva.

So, wow! I believe from all the research that I’ve done, is that it probably is a little bit of both: prostate type fluid and urine. But hey, sex is supposed to be fun and exciting. If your woman gets so damn excited that she pees on herself, you should take it as quite the compliment.

I have also learned that g-spot stimulation is not the only way to make it happen. A lot of first timers will ejaculate from that type of stimulation, but it is not necessary in those women that can.  There are some useful tips, in dealing with a female ejaculator.
If you are both into bondage, by all means tie her down. The movements will be extremely strong, unexpected, uncontrolled and sometimes can be spasmodic. Also, it’s probably a good idea to line your bed with vinyl sheets, because you do not know how much fluid may come out. And please be safe about it. The fluid may spray around like a fountain. Do not worry. If the fluid does contain the HIV virus, it is killed within seconds after it has left the body and exposed to a temperature lower than the average body temperature. But do avoid accidentally getting it on your lips and in your eyes, just to be safe.

So there you have it, it is basically still a mystery. Aren’t we women fascinating. Everyone wants to know about this stuff, even women that do it. (by Ann Andriani)